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  • in reply to: Communication between ADHD people #127677
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    How good would it be though to have an ADHD village, eh? Imagine the laughter!

    Read my post about ADHD housing. “No more toxic heavy bass or loud music ever.”

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    in reply to: Petition to ADHD housing (sound proof) USA #127676
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    Sound proofing won’t affect WI-FI. Second, using public WI-FI makes it all too easy for hackers to get your name and password. If your home router is using older encryption, your just asking to get hacked. Even on good encryption, sooner or later they will break it. For matter, using no password is just stupid. Your better off using direct cable connections. Watch ‘CSI-Cyber’.

    Back to the topic, I like to get more help than the person who told me to post it.

     

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    in reply to: Petition to ADHD housing (sound proof) USA #127660
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    What? One person comments?    A whole community that supports ADHD. That supports those with sound sensitivity. 24/7 quiet living, never worry about %%%#### who blast loud music from houses, apartments, or cars. NO MORE TOXIC HEAVY BASS! Buildings that are built from the ground up to be sound proof. That are designed to deal light pollution as well. Quiet enough outside so you can read with no problems all year round.

    This your chance to contribute to the petition and help make it better. Don’t pass this by! 🙂

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    in reply to: petition for clearing disabled student loans #127659
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    You don’t understand the concept of disabled. It covers a broad range of problems, physical and mental problems.

    You can get a college degree and get into debt. Then have a car accident and go on disability. You are unable to do common job  practices. So, you can’t work.

    You can be disabled from genetic problems from the start of your life. Go to college and do great. You are unable to get a past the job interview because of your disabilities. Discrimination is huge problem in the job world. You are stuck with massive debt.

    You can be disabled from genetic problems from the start of your life. Do really bad in k-12. Go to college and get help from campus learning disability. You struggle and have no social life, just keeping your head above water. You graduate from college with honors. You apply for jobs and most require ‘good communication’ skills, get along with your coworkers. Your disabilities keep your communication skills at poor or below average.  Despite lots of training, you can’t get past the interview. You go on disability and are stuck with massive debt.

    This two stories of many i’v heard. So, if you can’t get past the interview, what do you do?   Work for yourself as an independent business manager. Businesses have many startup costs. So, you have massive debt. The funds that can make your business succeed are sucked away by that debt. Destroying any chance of business success.

    Some of us, can’t ‘fit in’, ‘blend in’, ‘get along with coworkers’, not ‘make waves’, ‘8:00am full time workday’, and to be blunt be a (StarTrek) ‘Borg Drone’. You can only be successful as an independent business person (your own boss) .

    I learned this lesson the hard way. I will never waste any more time (about 15 years) trying to be a ‘Borg Drone’ worker(3 month total job experience lifetime). No more job interviews ever, No more trying be something i’m not.

    Something I said to someone got me thinking, “I hated giving a (bleep) what other people thought of me.”  I dress for working for pure comfort, not conformity.  I make the rules and I love it. I’m happy and have a purpose now. As my own boss, I work my own schedule, take days off when I need it, and I choose my subject matter for that day’s writing or reading.  I’ve worked more than ever did.

    One person who has read the whole thing had a look of ‘WOW! mind-blowing content’. The rest who have read chapters have the same look. It’s slow going, but fun processing each new piece of information. I can’t and wouldn’t have it any other way.

     

    Free the disabled debt burdens by signing. Free them to start over…

     

     

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    in reply to: lost my keys #127637
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    Only put one key on each key ring. Only bring out the one you need. It gets ironic. I was having problem with locks jamming, so replaced them two weeks before I lost them. So, I will have to change the locks, again. :p

    I write essays on many deep philosophy issues, combining physics, social issues, psychology, international relations, history, cosmology, astronomy, etc. Each are complex with many large issues and small details. I often work with as many as five at once or more. Any normal person would go insane trying to think at that level, understanding multi-faceted hyper-complex problems. I can do any subject on that list(and more) without a breaking a sweat.

    Yet, way to too often it’s, “Where the (bleep) did I put them?”  Whatever that item is… (rolling eyes) Driving back, often half-way home, saying to myself “Not again, you absent minded (bleep).”

     

     

     

     

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    in reply to: Petition to ADHD housing (sound proof) USA #127591
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    The principle is isolate the environment from vibration coming through the structure by placing something flexible between you.  You could probably come close to making it as soundproof as a recording studio.   I’ve used some of these techniques, they work.

    That doesn’t work if your renting. Already stated, sound proofing is a modification, and not an accommodation. So, no apartment or house owner is required to do it. Your S.O.L.

     

     

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    in reply to: Petition to ADHD housing (sound proof) USA #127586
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    Update 11/11/2015

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    Most people say Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder think it’s not real or fail to understand the magnitude of it. “You grow out of it.” or “Try harder” they say. Would you say that to someone in wheelchair or blind? You wouldn’t know someone had seizures unless they had one right in front of you. If you have depression or bi-polar disorder, no one will know unless you tell them. ADHD one of many hidden disabilities. Things that most people take for granted we can’t do.

     
    For most, sounds fade into the background with one foreground, being able to listen to one voice in a crowded room. When someone with ADHD hears this, they think, “You can do that?” Being ADHD, I have a completely different experience. You heard every person in the room talking at once. You can focus on that one voice for a few seconds at time and that takes a massive effort. It’s doesn’t take long before your exhausted and your dizzy from sensory overload. You must leave the area. Imagine hearing every sound in an area all the time. Very rarely can you shut out noise and only for a short time. Use noise canceling headphones, they are worthless and totally ineffective. Even if they were, you would need to wear them all the time which is impractical.

     

    Heavy base music makes you physically sick, hands shaking and nauseous. If it’s too loud, you leave the area or hold out for short time then leave. My tolerance loud music doesn’t increase, it goes down over time. What an ADHD person considers loud music, is nothing like “normal” people, much lower level. We are sound sensitive. Buildings that have “quiet hours” are uninhabitable outside quiet hours. This is not PC to say, but i’m going to say it anyway. Children scream, thump around, and overall are massive sound problem. This will be a childfree community, no one under the age of 21 allowed. We need a community that must be 24/7 quiet, no loud music or heavy bass ever.

     
    Being able to out sound into the background is an ability is hardwired in non-ADHD and genetically missing in ADHD. For me, there is no such thing as background noise, only foreground. I don’t get used to noise. I can only tolerate it for so long. I need regular periods of dead silence. My two housing experiences were noise hells. Uninhabitable outside “quiet hours”, quiet hours is still noisy. Relentless thumping of people moving around. Section 8 government housing is a joke. It’s nearly impossible to find decent non-microscopic safe housing, let alone quiet housing.

     
    I must draw a line in the sand. Not one more time. For me and many other ADHD persons, it is required for a government build enforced 24/7 quiet affordable living environment and/or community. At the minimum, units that are physically separated, single level, and built from the ground up to be sound proof, . The community is designed for noise sensitive or ADHD people. The community surrounded by base and sound proof high walls with a sound-lock (keeps from having noise come in every time gate opens). Community charter reads, “You can read any time day or night, inside or outside, and never worry about loud music, heavy base, and other loud noise.” The community enforces it with doubling fines and/or eviction for violation of local noise pollution laws.

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    The rest is more of a rant, but I could use it as way to get people’s attention to the lack of ADHD housing. Since, no one commented on the essay. I’ll assume it’s good. Please comment on what of the rest here I can use. The petition is long already. I know.

     

    NCR was a noise hell(Fall 1998 to Spring 2001, plus 2 months sleeping on couch). I must complained to the “RA’s” (fake managers), get free rent in exchange for ignore peoples noise complaints, I must have complained 100+ times. One person was maybe was evicted in 3 years. I had to spend increasing amounts of time away from it over time. From just afternoons during the week, to all day and night all week long at the college, watching TV and doing homework only there. About Fall 2000, I found someone who I paid to sleep on their couch while still paying rent on the place that most of the time uninhabitable, living their full time for two months after graduation until I ran out of money and had to move back in with mother in Sept 2001. Mind you, in constant state of hunger all that time. Tried to find a pro-bono lawyer (Free), lot of “We don’t take those kind of cases.” We won’t help the little guy against a sleazy corporation. I wasn’t aware of “forced arbitration clauses.” So, I likely signed one.

    I couldn’t get any work. Gave up searching and applied for disability and got it on the first try. I got my first payment and block payment around July 2007. Moved out into another noise hell around Sept 2008. THE SAME %@#& HAPPENED AGAIN! After going through 5&1/2 years of noise hell and mostly uninhabitable, I went from 7 full days down to 10 mins per day to pick up clothes only. I had enough and moved out on July 29, 2014. Did I mention in constant state of hunger again because of the high rent.
    Office says to me, “Your entitled to the quiet enjoyment of the apartment.” I made relentless calls about blasting stereos and finally many calls to the police. Saying, “It’s not our problem.” This time I didn’t bother with lawyer. What’s the point? Same problem. A sleazy corporation got away with it AGAIN!

     

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    in reply to: "Stand! Yell! Fight! Disabilities Unite!" #127559
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    in reply to: ADHD out of sync, non-verbals, on-topic #126423
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    I like to bring this topic up again. Lets see some more discussion on the subject. Thanks.

     

     

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    in reply to: What's your superpower? The Sequel #125798
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    Missing the point!  :p   Geez, this is not time to be humble. See the amazing things we can do. Let’s hear lots of event details. Single-minded persistence is positive thing. There are there, just look for them. Read the previous post. Here’s another one of my superpowers.

     

    Master storyteller:   Stories are effortless. The characters speak to me, who they are, what they like, what drives them. I’m watching the film play in my head and just write it down.

     

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    in reply to: why can't people communicate? #123907
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    I’v posted about this before. We are out of sync with rest of the people, we think differently than anyone else.  When we talk to other ADHD people, there is no problem. I can’t find the message to refer to.

     

     

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    Ritalin, I found I sleepy after about two hours.  Sometimes soon after taking it, I nod off and take cat nap for 10 to 20 minutes.
    I mentioned this subject in another topic.

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    in reply to: Meds works in reverse?? #120260
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    Nope, same effect as lower dosage.

     

     

     

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    in reply to: Invite for Adult ADHDer's #119859
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    How much do you get paid?   I’m curious.

     

     

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    in reply to: v-day blues 2013 #119171
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    Yes, back on topic please. I need those stories of woe. I’ll repost some the messages myself later.

     

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