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  • in reply to: Can a person with ADD/ADHD start a group for ADDers. #119504

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    The link to the tiny habits is:
    tinyhabits.com

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    in reply to: Can a person with ADD/ADHD start a group for ADDers. #119503

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    I do go to the Guidance Clinic, it is state funded, for now, but they are not willing to do more than prescribe pills.

    Before I started driving truck, I was seeing a therapist, but they canceled the therapist program at the Guidance Clinic except for children. I didn’t feel like it helped much either but that was before I was diagnosed, as an adult, with ADD. I don’t know why they just prescribe drugs but I think it might be easier to make money on drugs than it is to listen to people sort out their problems.

    In another forum, I’ve forgotten which one, someone made reference to a program for building 3 tiny habits, I is a good program. I found it helpful and motivation isn’t really necessary, I am still doing the habits I started with that program. I will eventually be able to build on them and perhaps form a structure that will help me stay on track.

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    in reply to: Can a person with ADD/ADHD start a group for ADDers. #119502

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    Larynxa,

    Forgive me. I don’t know how I missed this post. Thank you.

    I don’t know where to get the help I need. 10 years is a long time. My friends were already a lot younger than me, they passed me by long ago. I don’t fault them for it, they were living their lives, I know that, It does hurt sometimes though, that now that I have time for them they don’t have time for me.

    I need to get out and make new friends but I feel vulnerable now and needy. Which my friends may be picking up on. But I’ve set my feelings aside so long they just spill out sometimes. And I’m still stuck.

    I’ve been trying to write more. And I’m trying to get my website presentable so I can use it to sell, or at least promote, some of what I produce. Of course some of producing is getting that website going.

    “Catch 22 !!!”

    If I could just stop feeling like I’m being pushed away and ignored I would probably be ok.

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    in reply to: Break big problems into little pieces? #119196

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    Larynxa, I like cake too. Oatmeal no-Bake cookies are better though. I am finding that everything that requires time, recipes included, are difficult if not impossible. Many nights I have just poured a bowl of cereal and called it a night.

    But it’s true starting/stopping is a real chore, though I call it switching gears. I had a real hard time with that while I was taking care of my step-dad. I’d just get started on something and he would need me for something. God bless him he needed a lot of attention.

    Now I did do Ebay sales that way. I worked backward from my goal of seeing the money in my bank account from a satisfied buyer. But it is a lengthy list of steps. and very difficult to duplicate, because it took me almost three days of constant writing and thinking to get it down on paper so I could follow it. I was really proud of myself though. Once I got it down, I followed the same steps for every piece. I didn’t sell much but I did get it all on Ebay.

    It just isn’t practical, for most things. Not to mention there is that motivation issue again.

    Oh that’s another forum, but it’s true.

    You guys have some really good ideas and you are making me think too. You are helping me remember some of my successes. I have thought more about what I “have” accomplished over the years, in the last couple of days, than I have in the last three years.

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    in reply to: Break big problems into little pieces? #119195

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    MarieAngell, I read that post, Thank you It will work in some situations.

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    in reply to: Can a person with ADD/ADHD start a group for ADDers. #119194

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    Larynxa, No the problems with motivation really started a long time ago, but I remember them as being more manageable.

    I started taking care of my father back in 2002, Who had a hernia the size of a basket ball and skin cancer on his forehead that would bleed uncontrollably for seemingly no reason. I decided to take him to the hospital one day instead of taking him home as usual. All while I was working for a small advertising circular (shopping guide). I was also painting signs, and starting my own poetry magazine at the time.

    Shortly after I started taking care of my father I lost the job at the shopping guide. My first issue of “The Wee Hours Short Story and Poetry Reader” launched in March of 2003 I had several people lined up to help me get it circulated; delivered house to house. Who did a lot of talking and no walking.

    There were so many magazines that I became paralyzed with the overwhelming task of delivering the mag and trying to get the next issue out, sell ad space and do interviews.

    By July nothing was done, I lost my job, The magazine, I couldn’t sell a sign to save my soul and I had to move in with my dad because he couldn’t live alone.

    I could go on… but to make a very long story short I suppose I could be depressed, on top of loosing my job, and two businesses, I also lost my truck, filed bankruptcy, then lost my father, then my boyfriend was killed at work. Then I lost the house I was living in.

    Family swooped in sold the house and we split the money, equally. I wish they would have done equal work so I wouldn’t feel so taken advantage of. I feel I should have gotten at least a little more but they didn’t see it that way.

    I had to move home to my Moms, I learned to drive a truck then went on the road. Got sick had to stop driving for a while. Then found out my mother had lung cancer. She died six months later. I had to take care of my stepfather who had Alzheimer for her. which I did up until December 7, 2013.

    My sister moved in the house in early November, she is still here and supposed to be helping my pay the bills.

    Maybe I am a little depressed.

    Those were just the big things.

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    in reply to: Can a person with ADD/ADHD start a group for ADDers. #119193

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    MarieAngell, If I knew that I might be able to stop.

    But usually people sleep on the couch when they are visiting. Perhaps a temporary place. But this is my house…Almost.

    Mostly I think I just don’t want to get up and go to bed.

    You do have a good point, and I have been thinking about it, but I keep coming up blank.

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    in reply to: Break big problems into little pieces? #119177

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    There was supposed to be a picture in that post cartoon of stick figures one pushing a boulder, and the other trying to push a pile of gravel.

    I’ll try a link to my Blog if the (img) button doesn’t work, 2

    Link to my Blog: http://www.evvie01.com\blog

    I hope if nothing else you find it funny.

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    in reply to: A bullied kid grows up & creates a powerful thing of beauty #119174

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    Wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    in reply to: When employers won’t, or can’t help #119133

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    Thank you for looking at my website and saying I’m a good writer. I appreciate the opinion. And I see what you mean about the white space. Too bad my blog doesn’t work like PageMaker or InDesign, or even Corel for that matter. I can move stuff all around in those so I like the way it’s layed out.

    I wouldn’t want someone to glance at that title sideways quick, they might think I’m a “mother” alright but a mother what? ok you’re right lets leave that alone.

    Boy it took me forever to find the photos of me with the rig. It’s been a while I’ve changed the OS on both computers, and since everything was such a mess I just kept it all on DVD the first time then on an external hard drive that is giving me fits the second time.

    Can we put photos on here?

    Well I added some photos and tried to separate the text a little (I mean the paragraphs). I don’t think I’m quite there yet. I’m used to doing print with two or three columns.

    I could learn how to upload PDF’s of print pages.

    It takes me a long time to be happy with the way I have my writing organized, I do a lot of re-writing. Oh much easier on a computer.

    I didn’t know how I wanted to break apart “A Bad Day” so I left it as it was, although I might post it here if it’s ok.

    Is there a place in this website for stuff like that. Pro’s and poetry I mean.

    Another thing, my blog has the nasty habit of being very different from the way I see it as I’m writing it. Sometimes I like it better sometimes it looks terrible.

    As for jobs around here just to pay the bills, it’s really hard I’m a terrible waitress. I know I’ve tried it, I lose those jobs faster than I did the driving job. I really don’t know what I’m going to do at the moment, but I know that what ever it is, it’s got to be really soon.

    With the way our states mental health system is set up it’s easier to get drugs and a state check than it is to get any kind of real help.

    My case manager says that it’s usually all her clients want. I don’t know, if things don’t start working out I might have to do just that. I take food stamps and a little medical but I haven’t gone after a check. I don’t think it would be enough any way.

    Wow 2:00 in the morning, maybe I should go to bed now. Maybe things will be clearer in the morning.

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    in reply to: When employers won’t, or can’t help #119126

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    Larynxa thank’s. Really good info, I was checking out the info from MarieAngell and it looks like it might help too.

    I do have audacity, and believe it or not they have a book; I have that too. I was at my wits end so I had to learn what was happening to my recordings. The closet sound studio is just what I needed to hear. (Sounds from the bedroom closet) It never crossed my mind; I tried blankets, rugs, barriers, you name it, but something as simple as sitting in the closet didn’t occur to me. But I get it now, that egg-crate design of expensive studio walls had to come from somewhere; must be the peaks and valleys of cloth.

    You are right this is going to be a very large undertaking, I can throw photographs together in a short order but to make a professional presentation will take a lot of discipline and motivation. I am already cringing, and fretting. Mostly because I really do have a deadline; I gotta pay the mortgage, and keep the lights on. You’re right on another topic “networking” ooh that’s a tough one. I tend to talk myself into a corner. I am very slow with wit; I don’t come up with the right thing to say ‘til after the opportunity has passed. People can out-talk me every time. I always loose arguments because I haven’t been able to master the art of thinking on my feet.

    About my website, there isn’t much on it except some writing and poetry and two of the poems has a recording of my voice saying the poem. I haven’t been able to decide on a good enough reason to make a full-fledged website. It started out to be my adventures as a truck driver, but I was too busy driving or sleeping to do anything with it. Now I have a new motivation for the website. I can turn it into an on-line portfolio; at least I think I can. I can try anyway. Ok so here it is bear in mind only the blog portion has anything on it now, and it’s not much, http://www.evvie01.com/blog. Do read “A Bad Day” It’s one of my favorites. Thank you for your interest. I’m so glad this site has spell check.

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    in reply to: When employers won’t, or can’t help #119123

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    Wow, thanks MarieAngell I had heard about Nancy Ratey before, I think in one of my other books on ADD. I’ve had a few. I have been trying to figure out what makes me tic since I was 16; wondering why people didn’t like me. It makes me angry to think my parents knew when I was in second grade but decided they wouldn’t follow up on the diagnosis. I didn’t find out until I was in my late forties. Heck I didn’t even know I was angry about it until recently, not through therapy at least not with a therapist, but through my own efforts.

    Thank you I will check on those.

    PS, I think the only habit I have is not having habits. I fight them tooth a nail I sorta feel like a little rebel when it comes to doing things that I need to do. My mother could never get be to do the dishes in under 6 hours. And still to this day dishes are never completely done. There is always something.

    Sorry got off the subject.

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    in reply to: When employers won’t, or can’t help #119117

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    I am finding that out. thank you

    How do we find these jobs (that aren’t scams). I live in Michigan and have never even heard of the publisher who hires people for voice work. Which is how I learn a new subject, I read into a digital recorder then put it under my pillow at night. I recorded My Anatomy and Physiology textbook cover to cover, and my computer concepts book cover to cover plus the instructor lectures, and classroom instructions. It doesn’t sound all that great because I didn’t know about how sound bounced off the walls til I wanted to do my poetry and found that it sounded like I was talking in a tunnel. Plus I also found I wasn’t as good at it as I thought. I had to re-tape many times. I have an incomplete website with the results of my recording experiments on the blog.

    Speaking of my website I have been so bad at it, for the longest time it was really screwed up til someone finally told me how to take the index page off. Now Blue Host has a place holder there, which is a blessing. I keep threatening to finally get it up and useful, so I hyper-focus on it for a day, then something happens and I can’t get back to it for months or years. But I am determined to do it. I know the potential usefulness, I just haven’t gotten the clear format in my head yet. Sometimes when I think of all the work involved I cringe and then become paralyzed, my mind goes blank and nothing creative happens. But the blog simple as it is has a few things on it.

    Am I allowed to put website addresses in the posts?

    Any way if you want to visit my website just let me know and I can send you the info. It’s probably a good way to put my portfolio out there, which has to be organized as it is a hot mess. Getting all this stuff digitized will be quite an undertaking. But it is something I’ve always wanted to do. Both ways actually originals and digitally. Sometimes I think it is just laziness that keeps me from doing it, that was until I found the book “You Mean I’m Not Lazy, Crazy, or Stupid.” or was it the PBS special. Anyway I don’t know which came first for me the book or the video. “The chicken or the Egg paradox” I guess it doesn’t matter, I know now.

    I too, am a singleton no kids, no spouse, but I do have a mortgage but I inherited the family debt, so I have to find some way of making enough money to keep this coveted piece of ground and the lights on. Not an easy task. Everything is up to date, “knock on wood” but I don’t know how long I can keep it up. It’s not especially grand well not grand at all but it is home, my Mothers house “God rest her soul” and I miss her terribly.

    Wow I can sure rattle on, I didn’t realize how much I was typing. Heck I didn’t know I had so much to say. This is refreshing. My friends on Facebook would be jealous if they knew I was so talkative here. Not that I have a lot of friends but the ones I do have have been with me a while. No they do not have ADD and sometimes they are put off by my quirks, fortunately I don’t see them enough to drive them away. Ok, I’ll let someone else talk now.

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    in reply to: Learning styles and ADD? #119104

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    I had to learn Anatomy and Physiology the same way. I used a cassette recorder til it got too expensive, then I finally invested in a digital voice recorder. I recorded the instructor, myself as I read the chapter aloud to myself, and discussions in Lab. I would go to sleep at night with something playing every night. I did eventually figure out how to put the recordings on my Sansa mp3 player so I could set it to repeat. I works, I got all A’s a shock and a blessing.
    That was the class where I found out Ritalin worked for me. I used it only to take the test because the instructor had a very confusing way of issuing the test. We had the cards to mark off the answers but each answer had 5 letters that you had to remember the sequence for and make sure you got them in the right slots. and the multiple choice was drawn from a list of 100 possible answers. The first test I only got something like an 87 and I was still writing my answers 20 minutes after everyone else had finished. By the second test I did two things One I answers the questions by writing the letters on the question sheet, Second I took Ritalin, just a quarter of one because I was very sensitive and I’d never taken anything before. I could not have done it without the meds.

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    in reply to: When employers won’t, or can’t help #119103

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    Sorry about the pity-party up there.

    You are right, it’s going to cost them a lot of money. And it was a temp service that has a contract with a large corporation. I don’t mean to be cloak and dagger here but I don’t know how much I would be allowed say. I signed a lot of papers.

    I really want a job that would embrace my creativity; I was a sign painter, and a graphic artist. Not formally trained well I was as a sign painter, but I did pretty good as far as the work went. But my problems with relationships kept me from being a good salesman. Plus I have an aversion to making people buy something they may not be able to afford. I have a list of projects that I’ve done that always makes people say “How come you’re not rich” or “You are so creative I’ll bet you could do anything”. Most of them don’t know how many mistakes I made, or how many meals I skipped just to do it. They think hyper-focus is something you can turn off for a minute, or a day, then go back and just pick-up where you left off. No if I stop the hyper-focus it’s gone. I might or might not be able to pick it back up. And I never know when the right time is to take a break from it. I am always afraid that I won’t be able to go back to the task. Sometimes I don’t know when the end is too.

    I’m not too bad a writer either. My English teacher (in collage) said I should pursue an English major. But I’d be lucky to get one article a week. Can’t make much money that way. Although I think I would like to try. I did produce a magazine that was good I did all the copy, art and advertising. My sister helped with the sales. But she came down from Saginaw, she couldn’t stay and help me get the second issue out. I really thought I had something there. Even though it was a lot of work.

    Ok I’m rambling Thank you again for listening and for giving me words of encouragement. I really appreciate it.

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