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  • in reply to: How to create succes for a teen #127784

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    Thanks for your story. It soumds marvelous! You must be so chuffed for your son!

    It’s been a struggle to first understand what having ADD is really like and to understand where my son is coming from. We are communicating much better. And he seems to understand why I react differently sometimes. So big plus!

    We are getting there. Just sometimes the mountain turns into the Himalayas and I feel like a mountaineer in a T-shirt, shorts and flipflops : totally unprepared, helpless and overwhelmed.

    I do have professional support, but it’s not always at the moment I need it most. And when I do have the chat it has all settled down and I tend to forget how utterly useless I felt the fortnight before.

    I really value all you say as you have climbed the mountain and this is a very different perspective to a professional one. That’s what I like about the Totally Add videos: the professionals often also have ADD or really know what it is to live with someone with ADD. It’s just an extra dimension of understanding.

    I am rattling on!

    Thanks for you input. And I will let you know how things progress!


    in reply to: How to create succes for a teen #127782

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    That’s why I like Totally Add so much: people try to make you laugh even when you want to cry!

    I hear what you are saying!

    Keep the end goal in mind.
    Break it up and make small steps successful.
    Prepare for war not a battle.
    Become a Zen-master in patience.
    Bring humour to the table.
    BELIEVE in your child!
    BELIEVE in a positive outcome!

    I once got the advice to be like ‘Mr Rogers’ from the program ‘Mr Roger’s neighbourhood'(see Youtube): a really positive, calm and controlled adult at ALL times. I try to remember to be Mr Rogers, but I sometimes am more like Basil Fawlty. I know Basil won’t work on my teen, but it’s sometimes hard to keep him under wraps.

    Thanks for your pointers and your own positive outcome.
    It helps to know there IS a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow!
    It might not be the gold I was looking for, but my son will be glad of it (in the end).





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